feeling the pain of the lie

I thought my value came from seeking validation through external sources… parents, family, friends, mates, bosses…

I thought my value was how much money I have accumulated or the job title I have…

…or that I’ll exercise and ‘look good’ so I will feel better about myself because if I’m attractive, then I am valuable (not because I value my health to begin with)


It is when I value myself FIRST that everything comes into place.

… magazines, advertising, media, society, culture… all reinforce this point of looking outside myself for value.

It is a LIE. The BIGGEST lie.

I cannot find value outside myself… Period.

So I believed that I am not valuable because I made HUGE mistakes… I believed I was not valuable because other people, including family, disapproved of me…

Waiting for others to value me, will only bring more people and situations that devalue me… as an opportunity to feel the pain of not valuing myself, so I can turn it around. I am starting to FEEL the pain of that now… and now using the pain to make the changes in my attitude and core beliefs….

If your self-esteem comes from praise, your looks, your money, your possessions, your job, your kids, your mate… good luck with that…

Living Authentically.



About Tacey

I'm a free-spirit... Reiki is my way of life... but I also love the 80's, music, art, travel, fashion, tarot, astrology, numerology, yoga, home stuff... and encouraging others. Blogging, photography, and baking bread are my creative outlets... Life isn't always easy for me... but I'm here...
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